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26 min read Best Strap-Ons In 2026 For Kinky Couples And Epic Orgasms
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Every time I strap on a toy and step into the dominant role, I can’t help but wonder: how did I go so long without this? What’s it like to take the lead, penetrate your partner and completely reverse the power dynamic? And what about giving your man an intense pegging session he’ll never forget? Well, we all know that penises are the ultimate symbols of dominance, but you, too, can literally grab that power by the balls if you use strap-ons!
However, before you buy that huge pink dildo and shove it down your partner’s tail hole, let me warn you – not all strap-ons for women are created equal! To get the most out of your fake dick, I’ll show you how to find the best and most comfortable toy for your needs! So let’s strap in and explore every style of strap-on play – from lesbian sex to pegging and beyond – with the best and most comfortable toys on the market!
Editor’s Choice:
- Pros
- Flexible
- Rechargeable
- Remote Controlled
- Three motors with three speeds and patterns
- Stimulating for both partners
- Great for hetero couples and lesbians
- Cons
- Not the best for beginners
- A bit pricey
- Pros
- The short, curved shaft makes for excellent G-spot stimulation
- Rounded and smooth thrusting shaft gives you a feeling of fullness
- The shapely middle part provides pleasure for both partners
- Cons
- The toy doesn’t come with a storage bag
- It is slightly tricky to clean due to the shape
- Pros
- The hollow core design ensures anyone can wear it
- 10 vibration, pulsation and escalation modes
- A single charge lasts about 1.5 hours
- Cons
- Made of PVC, which is not the safest and sturdiest material
- Can be difficult to clean and maintain
How We Pick, Test And Rank Strap-Ons?
At PleasureMeNow, we don’t just test - we put every toy through its paces! Our expert team of dedicated testers has reviewed tons of strap-ons, but we don’t stop there. Real users like you help shape the final rankings!
Unlike our Wow Factor Score, which is based on expert testing, the Top 10 Strap-Ons is completely user-driven - meaning the best toys rise to the top based on real experiences. This ensures our rankings stay fresh, fair and truly reflect what works best.
Need a quick side-by-side breakdown? Check out the comparison table at the end for an easy way to compare features.
We take the guesswork out of pleasure by handpicking only the best strap-ons through a meticulous selection process (how we pick the toys). Our team scours the market, filtering out anything subpar before putting top contenders through real-world testing. Each toy is personally reviewed by our experts, ensuring it meets our high standards for quality, performance and safety. Want to dive deeper into our process? Learn more here about 👉 our product testing methodology.
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Quick Picks
- Best Overall Strapless – Strap-On-Me Strapless – 3 motors, poseable arm, suits hetero and same-sex couples
- Best for Pegging Beginners – Tracey Cox Supersex Pegging Kit – Machine-washable harness, O-ring, 7 modes
- Best Realistic Feel – VixSkin Vixen Peacemaker – Platinum silicone, ultra-detailed texture, extra hard core
- Best Waterproof – Fun Factory Share Lite – Fully submersible, erect tip for dual pleasure, hypoallergenic
- Best for ED / Inclusive Use – Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Bold – P and G-spot, ED-friendly, men and women
Top 10 Strap-Ons in 2026
There’s a wide variety of strap-on toys available, ranging in size, style, and level of realism. Some include features like vibration or other interactive elements, and there are even creative ways to incorporate them into different types of play. With so many options out there, choosing the right one can feel overwhelming—but after trying a range of styles for different preferences, I’ve put together a list of top picks below to help guide you.
Strap-On-Me Strapless Strap-On
Most Versatile
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183
- Material: Silicone
- Power source: Rechargeable
- Allergens: Phthalate-Free
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Circumference: 114.3 mm / 4.5 in
- Insertable Length: 165.1 mm / 6.5 in
- Length: 254 mm / 10 in
- Flexibility: Flexible
- Warranty: 2 years
- Pros
- Flexible
- Rechargeable
- Remote Controlled
- Three motors with three speeds and patterns
- Stimulating for both partners
- Great for hetero couples and lesbians
- Cons
- Not the best for beginners
- A bit pricey
Few toys are versatile enough to be equally suitable for heterosexual and same-sex couples, but this model delivers. It even comes with a poseable pony for internal pleasure!
This toy has three motors, so you can take advantage of three speeds and pattern types. They are all definitely too intense for beginners, but more experienced users will have a blast.
I really liked that the vibrator was flexible enough to let you be creative without being too soft. In addition, the battery life is excellent, especially considering how short the charging time is.
Bottom line: the best all-round strapless – 3 motors, poseable internal arm, great for hetero and same-sex couples. Three speeds are all too intense for beginners.
Most Precise
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104
- Material: Silicone & ABS
- Power source: Rechargeable
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Total length: 218.44 mm / 8.6 in
- Passive part width: 35.56 mm / 1.4 in
- Passive part insertable: 133.35 mm / 5.25 in
- Active part: 40.64 mm / 1.6 in
- Active part length: 88.9 mm / 3.5 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Warranty: 2 years
- Pros
- The short, curved shaft makes for excellent G-spot stimulation
- Rounded and smooth thrusting shaft gives you a feeling of fullness
- The shapely middle part provides pleasure for both partners
- Cons
- The toy doesn’t come with a storage bag
- It is slightly tricky to clean due to the shape
If precise G-spot stimulation is your main goal, this toy is pretty much all you’ll need. The shaft has a perfect length and it is curved just right to ensure you see stars with every new thrust.
Though the toy seems a tad small and thin, it actually has a rounded design. As a result, it is pretty fulfilling and it will stretch your vaginal muscles deliciously.
As usual, Fun Factory thinks of your partner as well. That is why the rounded middle part of the toy is manufactured with mutual pleasure in mind – trust me, it’s incredible!
Bottom line: the best G-spot strapless – perfectly curved shaft, rounded design for mutual pleasure, mutual stimulation built in. Slim profile may not suit all.
Pipedream 7" Hollow Rechargeable Strap-On
Best Details
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- Material: PVC, ABS, Polyester, Electroplated Iron
- Power source: Rechargeable
- Overall Width: 53 mm / 2.08 in
- Overall Length: 203 mm / 7.99 in
- Insertable Length: 178 mm / 7 in
- Waist fits: 711 - 1321 mm / 28 - 52 in
- Inner Length: 102 mm / 4 in
- Inner Diameter: 41 mm / 1.61 in
- Charging time: 90 minutes
- Usage time: 60 minutes
- Warranty: 90 days
- Pros
- The hollow core design ensures anyone can wear it
- 10 vibration, pulsation and escalation modes
- A single charge lasts about 1.5 hours
- Cons
- Made of PVC, which is not the safest and sturdiest material
- Can be difficult to clean and maintain
Thanks to its hollow core, this strap can be worn by anyone – that is a big plus. The anatomic details on the shaft are also incredible, so the dildo feels extra realistic inside of you.
Now, I don’t like the fact that the toy is made of PVC. It is a nightmare to clean because it picks up lint and it is just not the safest option out there, especially if you plan on using the toy every day.
But if you just want a quality strap stimulator that will help you learn the ropes without paying a fortune to get it, this is the one for you.
Bottom line: the best beginner hollow – anatomic detail, anyone can wear it, affordable entry price. PVC material; difficult to clean and not the safest long-term.
Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
Best Non-Rechargeable
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72
- Material: Silicone
- Power source: 1 x N battery (included)
- Allergens: Phthalate-Free
- Length: 177.8 mm / 7 in
- Insertable Length: 152.4 mm / 6 in
- Circumference: 114.3 mm / 4.5 in
- Maximum Harness Size: 1651 mm / 65 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Flexibility: Firm
- Pros
- The harness is machine washable
- Has a suction cup base, so you can use it hands-free
- Comes with a detachable O-ring, making it compatible with many toys
- Cons
- The fabric of the harness is a bit too rough
- Requires 1 x N battery to run
This toy has it all – it is compatible with a harness AND it comes with a suction cup base. So, you can enjoy it hands-free or use it to pleasure your partner, depending on your needs.
The harness features a detachable O-ring, so you can use it with a wide range of toys. The vibe that comes with it is excellent, though, as it has 7 extremely powerful stimulation modes.
Also, the harness is machine washer-safe, so cleaning this pegging set is a breeze. You will have to stock up on N batteries, but it will definitely be worth it!
Bottom line: the best pegging kit – detachable O-ring harness, 7 stimulation modes, machine-washable harness. Needs N batteries; not rechargeable.
Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On
Best Strapless Model
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65
- Material: Silicone
- Power source: Rechargeable
- Allergens: Latex-Free, Phthalate-Free
- Battery Info: 1 x CR2032 battery (remote)
- Length: 203.2 mm / 8 in
- Insertable Length: 127 mm / 5 in
- Circumference: 107.95 mm / 4.25 in
- Charging time: 60 minutes
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Flexibility: Flexible
- Pros
- The vibrations are super powerful
- High-quality materials and excellent design
- Fully waterproof, so you can use it during baths or showers
- Cons
- Slips out way too easily
- The most intense vibrations make a lot of noise
Many people avoid straps because wearing one seems uncomfortable to them. If you feel the same, this strapless model will be right up your alley.
With 12 varying intensity levels and a shape that suits most body types, this vibrator will wow you. The lower power modes are perfect for foreplay, while the highest ones will surely make your head spin.
Naturally, you can’t expect a strapless model to be as secure as strapped ones. However, this toy doesn’t slip out nearly as much as the others, so it is as good as it can get.
Bottom line: the most comfortable strapless – 12 intensity levels, suits most body types, stays put better than other strapless models. Not as secure as strapped options.
Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Risque
Best Material
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58
- Material: Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness
- Power source: Rechargeable
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Total Length: 203.2 mm / 8 in
- Width / Diameter: 50.8 mm / 2 in
- Circumference: 177.8 mm / 7 in
- Harness fits Fits Waists: 710 to 1210 mm / 28 to 48 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Pros
- Made of phthalate-free and 100% body-safe materials
- Comes with a built-in vibrator and 10 modes
- Entirely odorless and hypoallergenic
- Cons
- The vibrations might be too weak for advanced users
- Compatible with water-based lube only
If going for quality and staying safe are some of your main goals when buying toys – as they should be! – you’ll love this one. It is manufactured from a phthalate-free and 100% body-safe material and it is 100% odorless and hypoallergenic.
However, this toy is only compatible with water-based lubricants. It’s not that big of a deal, but it is something to keep in mind.
The built-in vibrator has 10 modes. Though they vary in strength, even the highest one isn’t as powerful as I usually like. Still, the harness is elastic and easy to clean, so it is a fantastic offer overall.
Bottom line: the safest body-safe pick – phthalate-free, odorless, hypoallergenic, easy-clean elastic harness. Water-based lube only; 10 vibration modes aren’t the most powerful.
VixSkin Vixen Peacemaker
Best Size
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- Material: Platinum silicone
- Power source: None
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Total length: 330.2 mm / 13 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Warranty: Lifetime
- Pros
- Made of 100% platinum silicone
- Warms easily and retains body heat
- The inner core is extra solid
- Cons
- You can’t use it with silicone lubricants
- Might be too bulky for newbies
Made of platinum silicone, this beast of a toy feels incredibly realistic on your skin. The texture was done with great attention to detail, so the veins and bumps resemble the real thing to perfection.
If you know me, you’re aware that I love rough play. This dildo allows that – and then some – all thanks to the extra hard inner core. So, you’ll love it if you usually like it quick, dirty and hard.
Due to the nature of silicone, this toy is only compatible with water-based lube. Also, it is not a vibrator, so you’ll find it lacking if that’s what you’re after.
Bottom line: the most realistic and intense – platinum silicone, meticulous texture detail, extra hard inner core for rough play. No vibration; water-based lube only.
Best Design
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- Material: Silicone
- Power source: None
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Length: 254 mm / 10 in
- Wearer's end length: 127 mm / 5 in
- Wearer's end width: 44.45 mm / 1.75 in
- Receiver's end length: 165.1 mm / 6.5 in
- Receiver's end width: 38.1 mm / 1.5 in
- Weight: 331.12 g / 0.73 lb
- Warranty: 2 years
- Pros
- The tip stays erect during play, increasing stimulation
- Stimulation for both the wearer and receiver
- Made of a non-porous, phthalate-free material
- Cons
- Should be used with an O-ring harness
- Might be too small for experienced users
My favorite part of this vibrator is definitely the tip – it stays erect during use, providing additional pleasure both for you and your partner.
Made of a phthalate-free, non-porous material, the toy is entirely safe to use and hypoallergenic. It is also a breeze to clean and wash, as it is fully waterproof (this also means you can use it in the shower!)
You will have to use this one with an O-ring harness, so bear that in mind before purchasing. It was a tad too slim for me, but the vibrations indeed made up for it.
Bottom line: the best waterproof strapless – erect tip for dual pleasure, phthalate-free, fully submersible. O-ring harness only; slightly slim for some.
Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Strong
Smoothest
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- Material: Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness
- Power source: None
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Total Length: 190.5 mm / 7.5 in
- Width / Diameter: 44.5 mm / 1.75 in
- Circumference: 146.1 mm / 5.75 in
- Harness: 710 - 1210 mm / 28 - 48 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Warranty: 90 day
- Pros
- Comes with a premium silicone harness
- Super easy to clean
- The material is hypoallergenic and odorless
- Cons
- The surface is smooth and not at all realistic
- Some might find it too stiff
If you typically prefer smoother toys, I think you’ll love this model. The surface is not at all realistic, so sliding it inside is effortless – not that pleasurable, but definitely easy.
The surface also ensures the toy is great for cleaning and maintaining. You’ll be done in under a minute and the toy will be ready for use again.
Now, I found the vibrator quite confusing. On the one hand, it’s really soft and pliable, but on the other, there is no overall flexibility. As a result, learning how to use it to bring yourself pleasure will take some time.
Bottom line: the easiest to clean – smooth surface, quick maintenance, pliable material. Non-realistic surface; no overall flexibility; learning curve to use effectively.
Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Bold
Most Comfortable
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- Material: Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness
- Power source: None
- Allergens: Phthalate-free - Non-porous
- Total Length: 203.2 mm / 8 in
- Width / Diameter: 50.8 mm / 2 in
- Circumference: 177.81 / 7 in
- Fits Waists: 710 to 1210 mm / 28 to 48 in
- Waterproof: Submersible
- Warranty: 90 days
- Pros
- Suitable for both men and women
- Excellent for men who have erectile dysfunction
- The harness is adjustable and has wide elastic bands
- Cons
- The material is a bit flimsy
- The surface is smooth, so there’s no added inner stimulation
This toy is suitable for both men and women, which is quite a feat. You can use it for P and G-spot stimulation alike and it is especially recommended for men who have erectile dysfunction.
Since versatility was the manufacturer’s main goal, it is not surprising that the toy has an entirely smooth surface. I didn’t enjoy it as much, but I will admit that it slides in and out extra easily.
My only real grievance is how cheap and flimsy the material feels. I do believe that it is safe, but it does seem a bit too fragile once you lube it up.
Bottom line: the most versatile and inclusive – P and G-spot compatible, suitable for erectile dysfunction, men and women. Smooth only; material feels flimsy once lubed.
Best Strap-Ons Compared
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Strap-On-Me Strapless Strap-On
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Fun Factory ShareVibe
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Pipedream 7" Hollow Rechargeable Strap-On
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Tracey Cox Supersex Strap-On Pegging Kit
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Desire Luxury Strapless Strap-On
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Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Risque
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VixSkin Vixen Peacemaker
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Fun Factory Share Lite
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Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Strong
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Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Bold
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| users | 183 | 104 | 93 | 72 | 65 | 58 | 47 | 31 | 21 | 18 |
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| power | USB Rechargeable | USB Rechargeable | USB Rechargeable + 2 AA batteries for remote | USB Rechargeable + 1 x N battery for remote | USB Rechargeable + 1 x CR2032 battery for remote | USB Rechargeable | None | None | None | None |
| material | Silicone | Silicone & ABS | PVC, ABS, Polyester, Electroplated Iron | Silicone | Silicone | Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness | Platinum silicone | Silicone | Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness | Silicone Dildos, Silicone & Elastic Harness |
| waterproof | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| brand | Strap-On-Me | Fun Factory | Pipedream | Lovehoney | Lovehoney | Doc Johnson | Vixen | Fun Factory | Doc Johnson | Doc Johnson |
| type | Vibrating strap-on | Vibrating strapless strap-on | Realistic vibrating strap-on | Vibrating strap-on | Vibrating strapless strap-on | Vibrating hollow strap-on | Strapless dildo | Silicone strap-on | Hollow strap-on | Hollow strap-on |
| alergens | Phthalate-Free | Phthalate-free - Non-porous | Phthalate-Free | Phthalate-Free | Latex-Free, Phthalate-Free | Phthalate-free - Non-porous | Phthalate-free - Non-porous | Phthalate-free - Non-porous | Phthalate-free - Non-porous | Phthalate-free - Non-porous |
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| noise | Moderate | Moderate | Moderate | Moderate | Moderate | Moderate | Whisper Quiet | Whisper Quiet | Whisper Quiet | Whisper Quiet |
| ease of clean | Easy | Moderate | Moderate | Easy | Easy | Easy | Easy | Easy | Easy | Easy |
| warranty | 2 years | 2 years | 90 days | None | None | 90 days | Lifetime | 2 years | 90 days | 90 days |
Strap in and Join the Party!
Whether you’re interested in exploring a more dominant role or simply adding variety to your intimate experiences, strap-ons are among the most versatile and innovative options available. Many people find that using one can bring a strong sense of confidence and empowerment.
Over time, they’ve become a popular choice for couples looking to switch dynamics or try something new together. If you and your partner are open to experimenting, these toys can introduce a fresh perspective and create deeply satisfying shared experiences.
Still, I should also emphasize that not every person is born with a set of sexual organs that matches their sexual preferences. That’s why these sex toys are so incredible and that’s exactly why they’re so popular nowadays. They are one of the only sex toys that you can use to experiment with role swapping and powerplay!
First Time Strap-Ons
I’ve seen over and over again that people end up having a bad experience with a strap-on simply because they buy the wrong type. Generally, they are not the easiest toy to buy compared to other sex toys. Why? Well, they need to fit your or your partner’s body correctly. Plus, there are many other factors to consider. That includes the materials, sizes, harnesses, extra features, etc.
Losing Your Strap-On Virginity
So what’s the deal with these toys anyway and what happens if you’re a total newbie who has never even seen one in real life?
Basically, strap-on sex toys are the most unique gadgets that can help you transcend the limits of nature. They’ll allow you to wear a big penis or a penis-like shape around your waist. That way, you can enjoy hands-free sex and experience what it all feels like from a penis owner’s perspective.
Now, if you’re looking for a first-time toy, you might think that strap-ons are solely used in the lesbian community. True, but remember that people of all sexual orientations and genders can play with them. Besides using hot strap-ons for lesbians, you can also use this toy for intense pegging sessions with your man. You can finally give your man an intense pegging experience – targeting his P-spot for a pleasure he hasn’t felt before!
But! That’s not all these bad boys are used for. Men can also wear them during intercourse for DP sex with their female lovers. How about double anal sex with gay or genderqueer partners? You got it! Also, some hollow types that are worn by men can extend their dick size.
How Do Strap-Ons Work?
Before you buy any ol’ strap-on for lesbians or straight males, note that there is a huge variety of types and styles. Most of them have different types of harnesses and different types of dildos. What’s more, the way that the dildo slips into the harness and the way that the harness itself attaches to the one wearing it will vary from toy to toy. You will need to look into all of those features in order to find the perfect configuration. It should work for your body and feel good while you’re wearing it!
Typically, this toy attaches to your crotch via a hip harness. You can also use a strap-type harness or underwear harness. When you wear the harness, you’ll have a realistic shaft ready for penetration. From there, every experience is different – from gentle and intimate to dominant and intense, the strap-on puts you fully in control! Not a bad way to start off the weekend, right?
Types of Strap-Ons
From my experience, the first thing you should do before you buy your toy is to inspect all the different types:
Strapless Strap-Ons
Besides classic harnessed types, there are many strapless models out there. How the heck do you even use a strapless toy? Well, it’s actually much easier than you thought and these toys could feel a lot more orgasmic for you if you want to penetrate yourself simultaneously while drilling your partner!
Basically, strapless strap-ons for women are some of the newest sex toys out there. They typically have two insertable ends. While one end looks just like a standard dildo, the other is bulb-shaped. You simply need to push that bulb into your tight hole. Then, your muscles will grip it to keep it in place. Even better, the bulbs often have a special shape. It’s made to target your internal sweet spots just perfectly. That way, you’ll get those epic G-spot orgasms while making your partner scream for more.
Additionally, a lot of these types offer vibration via insertable bullet vibes or built-in motors. And most importantly, strapless types solve some drawbacks of harnessed types.
For some people, the lack of a harness might make the experience even more intimate. For others, it can make sex feel more comfortable. These types are also ideal for positions such as doggy, cowgirl or even spooning sex. Still, one of the biggest drawbacks of strapless models is that they can get quite heavy. It could take a lot of work to actually hold one inside you, so you might have to brush up on your Kegels!
Double Penetration Strap-Ons
Wanna be the DP queen? The words double penetration are literally music to my ears! If you’re a DP expert or if you want to finally fulfill that long-dormant double penetration fantasy with your partner, these harnessed types will literally stretch your holes to the max!
Generally, there are all sorts of double penetration strap-ons for lesbians. The most popular type is a standard harness that offers two stacked dildos. Just make your lesbian lover wear it and use both ends simultaneously for incredible double penetration – one for vaginal, one for anal! You can also use these bad boys for double anal or double vaginal penetration, but only if you’re brave enough to take two dicks in one hole!
What’s more, you can also find simple types with one dildo that attach to your male partner’s junk. That way, he can wear the toy and use both his natural size and the dildo simultaneously for an intensely full DP experience!
Another option that I’d strongly recommend is a double-ended type that lets you penetrate your hole while you’re sticking it deep in your partner! This is similar to strapless dildos that I’ve described above, except that there’s still a harness that you can secure to your body.
Hollow Strap-Ons
Obviously, these toys are not only made for women. Hollow strap-ons are toys intended for males or penis owners who need a size boost. If your partner has a smaller size or experiences difficulties with erections, hollow designs can be a helpful option. They allow the wearer to fit inside a larger external shape, creating a different experience for both partners. Additionally, the snug interior can provide extra stimulation for the wearer while maintaining a comfortable and satisfying experience overall.
Strap-On Dildos
What I haven’t said so far is that dildos are the most popular toys to use with a harness setup. These dildos are super stretchy and smooth. They use soft materials like silicone to give you the most realistic sensations. You can find them in all sorts of designs, from ultra-realistic to non-conventional. They are available in various shapes and sizes, from extra large and thick to super discreet and curvy. For example, you can get a solid or hollow dildo or even a double or triple dildo to experiment with all sorts of dirty shenanigans.
Vibrating Strap-Ons
If you want to add more fuel to the fire, why not get a vibrating toy? There are many types to get here, including vibrating dildos, dual-ended vibrators, rabbit-style toys, G-spot vibes, etc. These toys can include removable or built-in vibrating mechanisms to deliver ultra powerful pulsations for deep tingles and intense mutual pleasure!
Since many of these toys generate vibrations from the base, the sensations can transfer to both partners. This shared stimulation can create a unique and engaging experience, with vibrations adding an extra layer of intensity. Whether used for different types of play, the effect can feel immersive and deeply pleasurable for both people involved.
Looking for Something More Advanced?
Sometimes, I like to go the extra mile and use a super-kinky strap-on for women to take things further into kinky territory! If some of the standard types I’ve described above weren’t hardcore enough for you, you can look into:
- Realistic strap-ons – These toys come with an ultra-realistic dildo that looks and feels exactly like a real hard penis. You can pick from all kinds of sizes and skin colors, including every skin tone from pale to deep brown, with fantasy colors available – throbbing veins, realistic detail, big balls and a delicious penis head.
- Thrusting and rotating strap-ons for lesbians – These unique toys have special rotating or thrusting shafts. They provide even more intense hands-free action and make penetration a lot easier. They’ll do all the work for you while twisting and turning inside your partner to milk them dry!
- Huge strap-ons – If you’re drawn to larger sizes, extra-large options are designed to deliver a more intense sense of fullness. They often range from 10 to 14 inches or more, making them suitable for those looking to explore bigger, more advanced experiences at their own pace.
- Squirting strapons – Some models even include a built-in pump feature that can simulate fluid release, adding another layer of realism to the experience. If you’re exploring this type of play, these added features can enhance immersion and create a more dynamic and engaging interaction for both partners.
- Chin strap-ons – This is a more specialized type, often associated with advanced roleplay and power dynamics. It’s designed to be worn on the face or chin, creating a hands-free experience that allows for unique positioning and creative exploration with a partner.
- Knee strap-ons – Finally, knee types use harnesses that attach to your legs. They are not designed for standard penetration via your hips. Instead, your partner can sit on your thigh and slide all over the dildo during foreplay.
Which Strap-On Is Right for You?
Scarlett’s quick matchmaker:
- First strap-on ever → Tracey Cox Supersex Pegging Kit (machine-washable, O-ring, beginner kit) or Doc Johnson Be Risque (body-safe, elastic harness)
- You want strapless (no harness) → Strap-On-Me Strapless (3 motors, poseable arm) or Desire Luxury Strapless (12 levels, best slip resistance)
- You want precise G-spot stimulation for both partners → Fun Factory ShareVibe (curved shaft, mutual-pleasure middle)
- You want the most realistic penetration feel → VixSkin Vixen Peacemaker (platinum silicone, extreme texture, hard inner core)
- Pegging a male partner → Tracey Cox Supersex Pegging Kit (O-ring compatible, 7 modes) or Doc Johnson Be Bold (P-spot and G-spot, ED support)
- You want fully waterproof → Fun Factory Share Lite (fully submersible, erect tip)
- Hollow strap-on for male ED or size boost → Pipedream 7″ Hollow (affordable, anyone can wear) or Doc Johnson Be Bold (P and G-spot, ED)
- You want app / remote control features → Doc Johnson Be Risque (10 vibration modes, water-based compatible)
Buying the Strap-On of Your Dreams
Whether you want to use your toy for hardcore anal romps or gentle vanilla sex with your partner, I’ll give you some priceless buyer’s tips:
The Hottest Strap-On Setup for You
All kinds of wearable sex toys that you connect to your body via a harness could be considered a strap-on. However, to get the most comfortable fit, you should consider the following:
- Type of dildo or vibrator
- Type of harness
- Attachment method
One of the best choices here is a beginner strap-on kit. It includes an adjustable harness along with the dildo. Alternatively, you can only buy a harness that fits you the best. Then, you can play with various dildos to find the best one. Of course, if you don’t want to bother with extra harnesses, a strapless dildo could be a better choice. Yet, just remember that you’ll need to train your hole for it since it’s heavier than a standard toy.
If all goes well, you’ll end up with a comfortable strap that feels like there’s an actual realistic shaft extending from your waist – it really does feel like a natural extension of your body! If not, a floppy, oversized or ill-fitting toy could totally ruin the mood.
Which Dildo or Vibrator Is the Best for You?
As you’ve seen, you can use all sorts of penetrative toys in your harness. Whether you want to get just one dildo or experiment with several different toys, my best tip is to focus on what you or your partner truly need.
For example, you don’t have to use an enormous dildo if your partner isn’t ready for it. Also, you don’t have to use a realistic toy if you’re intimidated by the look of a realistic phallic toy. Ultimately, this choice is up to you. You can use classic dildos, tapered probes, phallic vibrators, non-conventional G-spot vibes, anal dildos, prostate milkers and so on. And remember, just choose the shape, color and texture that looks and feels the hottest to you!
Strap-On Mistakes to Avoid
- Springing a strap-on on your partner without discussion – especially important for pegging. Consent, curiosity and enthusiasm from both partners make this experience work. Buy together, or at least discuss fully before buying.
- Starting with a strapless model – strapless strap-ons require strong pelvic floor muscles to hold in place during use. Beginners should start with a harnessed model before graduating to strapless.
- Using silicone lube on a silicone dildo – permanently damages the material. Water-based lube only for all silicone strap-on dildos and harnesses.
- Ignoring O-ring compatibility – buying a dildo and harness separately without checking O-ring diameter vs toy base diameter means they won’t fit. Always measure first.
- Skipping harness practice before sex – wearing your harness for 20-30 minutes before your first session dramatically improves thrusting confidence and comfort. It really does feel different at first.
- Forgetting to clean the harness – most people clean the dildo but forget the harness absorbs sweat and fluids. Cotton and fabric harnesses are machine-washable; leather requires hand-wiping.
Harness Materials and Types
The first thing you need to do here is to inspect the fabrics. A quality harness should be made of soft, body-friendly, durable and washable materials. That includes cotton or leather. Generally, leather will give you a kinky look. But, a cotton harness is lighter and a bit easier to wear.
What’s more, there are several different harness configurations. The most common are two or three-strap harnesses. A two-strap harness will give you one strap for the waist. The other will be secured between your thighs. In my experience, this is a rudimentary design compared to a three-strap harness. It might cause friction and an unstable fit. Conversely, a three-strap harness is much more stable. It uses two straps to attach to your thighs and one that goes between your legs.
The final type of harness is one that doesn’t come with straps and instead resembles underwear. This harness is available in all panty styles. That includes sexy thongs, fetish lingerie or even male briefs. While this type will feel the most comfortable, the downside is that it can seal off your genitals.
Attachment Method
How do you actually attach a dildo to your harness? Generally, there are two different mounting methods: a hole or an O-ring configuration. A harness with a hole is the most basic method. You simply need to pop your toy through it to secure it. However, that method is not the best since it can make your toy slide or move around. You could lose some control over your dildo. Also, you may not be able to use it in various acrobatic positions.
On the flip side, a harness with an O-ring will hold your fake dick nice and tight. The best O-ring options out there are usually made of body-safe silicone or surgical steel. That way, the ring will firmly attach to the base of your toy. Since its job is to secure a tight fit, your toy won’t flop, wobble or pop out.
Another benefit of O-ring harnesses is that you can use them with various different dildos or vibrators. What’s more, O-rings are a much safer option for anal since there is no way for your dildo to slide out and get stuck in your partner’s butthole.
How to Pick the Safest Materials
Here, you’ll have to take special care since the materials will have to suit both your and your partner’s skin. Plus, besides choosing a safe dildo material, you’ll also need to pick a comfortable, skin-friendly and easy-to-clean harness. And most of the time, the sexiest harnesses are the toughest to clean. Also, most of them will not play well with your skin.
For example, leather harnesses look the hottest to me. However, they are somewhat porous and they’ll absorb bacteria every time you use them. You’ll also encounter other fabrics like nylons, plastics, PVC, latex or synthetics. It’s best to avoid rubber or leather imitations, PVC, vinyl or any other synthetic imitations because they might not play well with your skin.
Ideally, you should choose natural materials. That includes cotton, cloth or latex. These harness materials will adapt to your body quickly. Cotton is by far the easiest choice here since it suits most people’s skins. Also, it will prevent chafing. However, if you know that you’re not allergic to latex, this natural material is a great choice due to its shiny look and smooth feel.
What About the Material of Your Sex Toy?
Since there are so many of these toys out there, it’s easy to come across some that use poor-quality or outright unhealthy materials. To avoid this, only look for medical grade and body-safe materials. Here are some of the most common materials:
- Silicone – Silicone is undoubtedly the best and safest material you can get for your sex toy. Silicone toys can be highly flexible or fairly tough. They’ll also come in a wide range of shapes or colors. This material doesn’t come with nasty smells and it’s 100% hypoallergenic and body-safe. Since it’s non-porous, it’s easy to clean and healthy to use if you want to share your toy with your partner.
- TPE – TPE is a blend of polymers known for its soft, flexible, and realistic feel. It’s a great option if you’re looking for a smooth and lifelike texture. However, it is slightly porous, which means it requires more careful cleaning and maintenance, and may need to be replaced more frequently compared to non-porous materials.
- Rubber, Jelly, PVC – These porous materials are full of phthalates. They can be quite unhealthy, especially if you’re planning to swap holes with your toy. To save yourself the trouble and to keep your holes safe, just skip them altogether!
Time to Take Some Measurements!
Now, you’ll totally ruin your evening if your harness doesn’t fit. That’s why you should look into both the harness and the dildo size. First, you should measure your waist and find a harness that matches your size. Ideally, you’ll get a comfortable fit. It shouldn’t feel too tight or too loose. If you’re unsure, an adjustable harness will enable you to get the perfect fit since you’ll be able to loosen or tighten it.
Also, when you look into the size of your dildo or vibrator, you should pick something that both you and your partner will enjoy. If you’re only going to use your toy to penetrate your partner, make sure they are comfortable with the length and width. If you’re both going to use the toy for penetration, you’ll need to consider both your and your partner’s needs and limits. After all, a dildo that’s a couple of sizes too small or too big could ruin it for you.
Therefore, the best starting point for a beginner strap-on is around 5 to 6 inches. It will work well for all kinds of anal and vaginal sex. It will also be quite easy to handle while you’re wearing your harness. If that size is too small, you can certainly go for something bigger, but just make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with the size!
Bonus Tip: Inspect All the Special Features
If you’re buying a first-time strap-on, you should carefully look into the specs and features. For example, the best vibrators should give you a long battery life plus a wide range of vibration options and settings to play with. The same goes for all other options such as automatic thrusting or rotation, fake ejaculation, textured shafts, etc.
Some of the newest and most exciting options out there are remote-controlled or app-enabled models that allow you to configure the vibration settings via your phone or a standalone remote. These features are fantastic for hands-free fun and they’ll offer tons of extended control options for your toy. However, before you buy this kind of toy, try to look into all the details to see whether you truly need them and whether it’s worth it to pay extra.
Do:
- Look for harnesses with wide straps. This will give you the most stable and the most comfortable fit.
- A quality O-ring harness will let you experiment with various sex toys.
- If you don’t want to mix and match, just get a kit that already comes with a vibrator or dildo.
Don’t:
- Avoid jelly, PVC and other synthetic materials for the harness and the insertable toy.
- Don’t forget to talk to your partner first and buy your toy together.
Tips on Using, Cleaning and Storing Your Strap-Ons
“Whether you’re taking the lead with your partner for the first time or you’re a seasoned strap-on user exploring new territory – it’s all about teamwork, communication and finding what works for both of you, baby!”
If you’re wondering how to use this type of toy effectively, it’s important to start with clear communication and consent from your partner. Take time to become comfortable handling the toy, find positions that suit both of you, and make adjustments for balance and alignment, along with keeping a few practical tips in mind:
Safety First
I can’t stress how important it is to make your harness fit correctly. If it’s loose, you won’t be able to make those intense thrusting motions. Also, if it’s too tight, it could cause some discomfort or even irritation. The smartest tip is to try your toy before sex. For real, you could try to wear it around the house for a day or two to get used to wearing your new toy before you jump in! When it comes to putting it on, you should make the straps lay flat against your thighs before tightening them.
Take the Lead – But Start Slowly!
Once you get acquainted with that big dick flopping around between your legs, you’ll be ready to get dirty with your lover. You can try all sorts of wild acts, from vanilla penetration to bending gender roles, strong mutual orgasms, DP, intense lesbian sex, pegging, BDSM and much more.
Whatever your poison, you’ll need to take it easy at first. That is, both of you should be extra horny before penetration. Unsure how to proceed? Well, one of my favorite things is to start with oral play on your strap-on – it’s an amazing way to get both of you in the right headspace! When you’re ready to be intimate with your partner, it’s important to use plenty of water-based lubricant for comfort. Find a position that works well for both of you, align yourselves for a smooth angle, and focus on enjoying the experience together.
How to Clean and Store Your Sex Toy
Hopefully, when you’re done with your wild ride, your strap-on sex toy will be covered in all sorts of liquids. That’s why it’s essential to clean your toy right away after use.
The best way to do that is to remove your sex toy from the harness. After that, run it under the tap and clean it with warm water. You can also soak it completely, but only if it’s waterproof. With non-porous materials like silicone, some water and a soft soap will be enough to eliminate all of the fluids and germs. However, if your toy is made of a porous material, you’ll need to follow the manufacturer’s cleaning instructions.
Also, don’t forget to clean your harness! If your harness is made of a machine washable material like cotton or cloth, you can pop it in with your laundry. That will be enough to clean it thoroughly. You can also clean it by hand with water and washing powder. If you don’t have a machine-washable harness, you might have to clean it only with a soft damp cloth. But, that will depend on the material and the manufacturer’s instructions.
After use, it’s best to leave both the toy and harness out to air dry thoroughly. For storage, keep the toy in a clean, sealed container to protect it from dust and bacteria – so it stays in good condition and ready for next time.
Strap-Ons Industry Overview and the Future
Never in history have sex toys been so versatile and widely available to all people! In the past, women had to pay a visit to the freakin’ doctor in order to get a decent orgasm. Fortunately, you can truly find the optimal sex toy (or several) for you nowadays, whether you’re into a realistic wearable strap-on, a vibrating strapless or an automatic G-spot toy, a hyper-realistic sex doll or even long-distance dildos that you can use with a partner who lives miles away from you. But how did it all start and when did humans first strap a wearable toy onto their bodies?
The Origins of Strap-Ons
Some of the earliest strap-on action was seen in “Bend Over Boyfriend”, a 1990s series of adult tutorials for heterosexual couples that showed men and women how to take a big strap-on up their sphincters.
Still, dildos actually trace back to ancient times. One of the oldest discovered examples is believed to be around 30,000 years old. Some ancient discoveries claim that the earliest strap-on was actually used around 10,000 BC for unusual sex or fertility rituals. Also, some ancient murals found in ancient Rome and Greece depict men being pegged by women with early strap-ons (and their expressions suggest they thoroughly enjoyed it!!!). Nevertheless, we could say that the modern variant of this toy was invented in the 1990s and that it has been improving our sex lives ever since.
What to Expect in the Future?
From vacuum lock harnesses to smart vibes, the masterminds of the industry are truly giving us some of their best inventions at the moment. Some of the best and most creative brands in the business are Doc Johnson, Happy Rabbit, Pegasus, King Kock, Lovehoney, Tracey Cox, Ambrosia Vibe, Tantus, etc. Some of those brands are actually focused on creating innovative toys that offer smart features via app control.
For example, one innovative option is Ambrosia Vibe’s bionic strap-on, which can track thrusting movements and convert them into corresponding vibrations. This creates a more interactive experience, allowing the wearer to feel feedback during use and making the experience more engaging for both partners.
Personally, I would love to see more of those kinds of features in the future because they make the whole experience even more realistic. Imagine being able to feel every inch of your toy while it’s inside your partner! That would satisfy our curiosity even further when it comes to owning and yielding a realistic shaft. But that’s not all: there are plenty of other next-gen features we could expect in the years to come. That could include VR integration, extended remote control options, biometric and ergonomic harnesses, smart controls, AI and so on. Still, while the sky’s the limit, I bet that nothing will please you more than fully immersive strap-on experience inside your partner! Bottoms up!
FAQ
Yes, you can get a harness that accepts various dildos or vibrators. But, if you’re going to buy a vibe or dildo separately, make sure that it has a flat base. Not all toys will fit into your harness. Therefore, it’s best to measure the diameter of the hole and the width of the sex toy to make sure it’s compatible.
If you’re not careful, you could run into some risks. For example, you could set your harness too tight. In this case, the straps could squeeze your skin or even cause chafing. Additionally, you won’t be able to feel your sex toy while you’re penetrating your partner. That means you’ll need to be careful not to hurt them during penetration. So be patient, use lots of lube and practice!
Absolutely not! Pegging is a kink that many straight men enjoy because they want to experience what it’s like to get dominated by their female partners. In contrast, women love this kink because it reverses the roles and puts them in control. Also, intense ass play and prostate stimulation can feel pleasurable to all men, regardless of their sexual orientation. So no, your BF probably isn’t gay, but as always, you should talk about his fetish before you try to invade his bottom.
If you plan to share a toy with your partner, it’s best to clean it before switching. That said, pausing in the moment can interrupt the flow, so using a condom beforehand is a simple way to keep things seamless. Also, if you’re switching between different types of use, always replace the condom with a new one to keep everything safe and hygienic.
Some women could orgasm solely from the excitement of wearing this toy and using it on their partner. Others might need additional stimulation. Sometimes, it will be enough to feel the base of the toy bumping up against your clit during penetration. But, some women might need additional stimulation via vibration. In that case, it’s best to get a dual-ended or vibrating toy to stimulate yourself while you’re penetrating your partner. Trust me: you’ll have some of the most intense orgasms ever!
If you’re shorter than your partner and you want to penetrate them with this toy, you might have some issues while maneuvering your toy. The best way to deal with your height differences is to experiment to find the most practical positions that work for you. The easiest thing to do is try doggy style while using one or two pillows to lift yourself up. Another easy solution is to put your lover’s ass up in the air with their legs behind their head and kneel down on some pillows to get the perfect angle.
Clean the dildo and harness separately after every use. For silicone dildos, wash with mild soap and warm water; silicone without electronics can be boiled briefly for full sterilization. For TPE dildos, warm water and soap is sufficient but they cannot be sterilized – replace every 3-6 months with regular use. Never clean PVC dildos with anything abrasive. For the harness: cotton and fabric harnesses are machine-washable on a gentle cycle (check the label). Leather and synthetic harnesses should be wiped with a damp cloth and mild soap only. Never submerge leather. Air-dry everything fully before storing. Keep dildo and harness in separate pouches to prevent material degradation.
For your first strap-on, prioritize simplicity and comfort over size or features. Choose a medium-sized dildo (5-6 inches) with a flat base and pair it with a three-strap cotton harness with an O-ring attachment – this combination is the most stable and adjustable. From our list, the Tracey Cox Supersex Pegging Kit (machine-washable harness, detachable O-ring, vibe included) and the Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Risque (body-safe material, elastic harness, 10 vibration modes) are both excellent beginner-friendly options. Avoid strapless strap-ons as your very first choice – they require stronger pelvic floor muscles and more experience to use effectively.
Absolutely – and strap-ons are especially important tools for gender-affirming play. Most harnesses on our list are fully adjustable and gender-neutral in sizing. The underwear-style harness in particular is popular for gender-affirming use as it resembles everyday underwear and feels the most natural to wear. The Doc Johnson Body Extensions Be Bold from our list is specifically designed for men and women, and is recommended for people with erectile dysfunction – making it a strong pick for trans men and those with varied anatomy. Look for harnesses with explicit inclusive sizing and adjustable straps.
Start with a conversation, not a surprise. Explain what excites you about trying a strap-on and invite your partner to share their thoughts – their comfort and enthusiasm make the experience work. Once you’ve both agreed, start with a beginner-sized toy (5-6 inches) and plenty of lube. Practice wearing the harness alone first so you feel confident before your first session together. Use a safe word. Take it slower than you think you need to, especially for pegging. The Don’t section above is especially useful here: ‘talk to your partner first and buy your toy together’ is the single most important rule for first-timers.
