Duration Dilemma: How to Perfectly Pace a Felacio

Well, hello there, sugar puffs. Are you up for another round of raunchy ruminations? Today, I’m here to answer the age-old question. No, it’s not about why the chicken crossed the road. Although, the dilemma I’m talking about has a lot to do with chickens – or rather, cocks (wink wink). Anyway, here’s the riddle of all riddles: How long should a blowjob last?

Sure enough, a question of such importance requires careful deliberation and trust me – what I’m about to share with you is a result of a great deal of research and field testing. But you know me, I’m nothing if not thorough, in many ways. So, let’s get right into the meat of the matter and untangle the puzzle of passionate pacing.

Qualified in Kink: What Do the Sexperts Say?

When talking about matters this delicate, one should consider different perspectives. So, as the first step on this kinky quest, let’s heed the words of wisdom. What do our spicy sexperts have to say about it?

The Deception of Porn

According to the lovely sex therapist Ian Kerner, the way adult flicks portray BJs might not be realistic. In fact, an average male specimen lasts between five and seven minutes in the sack. So, although this is very subjective, it makes sense for most blowjobs to last up to seven minutes.

How Over How Long

More pearls of wisdom from our sexpert, Ian – most men won’t care exactly how long a BJ lasts. What they do care about is if they can let go all the way to the big O or if they should save energy for more bedroom shenanigans. He also says that, in the art of giving head, slow and gentle usually beats rough and rapid. You heard it, boys and girls, take it nice and easy!

Ten Minutes – Seriously?

Now, let’s hear out another sex therapist, Deb Laino. According to her, 10 minutes is an optimal duration for a blowjob. Although that might sound like a jaw-dropping amount of time – literally – she didn’t mean 10 minutes of full-on action. Instead, this timeframe should include all the extras, like teasing, kissing and other little things that make the whole affair oh-so-thrilling.

Spicy Stats and Naughty Numbers

Time to get all saucy and studious, folks and dig deep into the sexy stats.

Average and Alluring

As this study suggests, an average blowie goes on for 9 minutes and 33 seconds. I know, sugar, this number by itself doesn’t tell us much, so let’s uncover more deets.

Indecent But Ideal

In the same study, men reported that the ideal length for a blowjob is 7 minutes and 22 seconds. For women, the perfect duration was 3 minutes longer.

Averages and Age

Darlings, it comes as no surprise that age has a lot to do with how long it takes a guy to reach the happy end. Namely, the older a man is, the longer he will last during a BJ. For reference, younger peeps (18-24 years old) take 7 minutes and 12 seconds on average, while those aged 75 take 16 minutes and 38 seconds or more than double.

Ephemeral or Everlasting

Now, this might surprise you, but fellatio tends to last longer for those who are just hooking up than for couples. Specifically, the average blowjob for single guys in casual encounters last 11 minutes and 4 seconds.

As for the committed lovebirds, their oral Olympics become longer with the progress of their relationships. More precisely, a blowie lasts about 2 minutes longer in a relationship that has been going on for more than a year compared to couples who have been together for up to three months.

Some Like It Long

Honey, I did say that an ideal BJ for men lasts around 7 minutes on average. Still, a sizable share of guys (6.8%) like it longer than 15 minutes. At the same time, the share of women who prefer mouthy marathons is only 2.1%.

In My Not-So-Humble Opinion

The sexperts and stats have spoken, my lovelies. Now it’s time for Lola’s two cents. As a certified Sexuality and Relationship Coach, I’m a pleasure pundit myself. Plus, my street smarts often come in handy while discussing topics of naughty nature.

So, here’s what I think. There is, in fact, an ideal number of minutes for a BJ. That being said, this number will be different for each person. And not only that, honey – it will vary from blowjob to blowjob.

As our spicy sexperts and saucy stats suggest, no one can tell you how long fellatio should last without knowing all the ins and outs (excuse my naughty pun) of your situation. The age of your man, his personal preference and the mood at that very moment are just a few of the things that will decide if it should go on for five, ten or fifteen minutes. Besides, is it the main course or just an appetizer?

There’s a bunch of moving parts and honey, that’s exactly what makes it so thrilling. So, don’t get hung up on numbers. Instead, focus on sharing these precious moments (and body fluids) with your special person. Think about how good it feels, not how long it’s taking.

And, honey, as always, communication is the key. Seriously, why do you need to play a guessing game and solve complex equations in your mind when you can just ask, “Babe, would you like me to go on?” Yup, it’s that simple.

Finally, every beej is a two-way street. So, while you‘re trying to blow your guy’s mind (along with other things), make sure that you’re enjoying it as well. And that leads us to the last topic on today’s raunchy menu.

“The perfect blowjob doesn’t measure in seconds or minutes but in happy moans. In the end, it’s not about how long it lasts but how mind-blown he is once you’re done with him.”

How to Enjoy Giving a Blow Job

Let’s face it, no matter how much effort you put into your mouthwork, if you’re hating it, it’s not gonna be fun for you or the person who owns the penis that you’re trying to pleasure. So, here are my naughty tips on how to enjoy going down on him.

Giving Is Glorious

Honey, receiving pleasure is oh-so-wonderful, but giving it can feel even better. His moans and the bliss on his face are a potent aphrodisiac and a perfect reward for your diligent efforts.

Relish the Power

Think about it this way – you’ve literally got him by the balls and he’s loving it. At that very moment, you’re the queen (or king) of his universe, holding the reins of his pleasure. If that’s not power, I don’t know what is.

Stick to Your Groove

Sugar, BJs are all about giving. But does that mean you should be doing something you’re not comfortable with? That’s a hard no. So, while focusing on your partner’s pleasure, don’t forget about your own. After all, unless you’re into it, it’s gonna suck for everyone involved (pun intended).

Titillation Is Timeless: Summing It Up

And that’s it, my foxy fellatio fanatics. Our cheery calculation carnival has come to a kinky close. Hope I solved your duration dilemma up to a point. Of course, when we’re doing the Devil’s dance, nothing is set in stone and there are no hard rules (although certain things are rock-hard).

The bottom line is you need not worry about how long you’re doing it as long as you’re sharing pleasure and passion with your partner. So, instead of bringing a stopwatch into the bed, allow yourself and your bae (or hookup) to get lost in the moment. In the end, as long as it makes you both feel flippin’ fabulous, who cares if it lasts 2 minutes or fifteen, right?

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